We all think we know what love is, but actually, do we?

 

All of us go through that “true love” phase at least once in our lives.

You say things like “ah, I love him so much”

“I want to spend my entire life with him”

And if the luck is in your favor and he/she says it too, there you go, you have just experienced the best moment of your life.

You feel you have everything with you. And there is no other feeling in the world other than this.

You know, they say, love makes you blind?

Haha, yes it does.

But if the same relationship comes to an end, your whole world cripples down right in front of you and you’ll still be able to do nothing about it.

Why?

Because in the name of love, you were completely dependent on this person for your happiness. So, once they leave you and go, you’re totally devastated.

You loose interest in everything you loved before.

We say things like “unconditional love” right?

Then, why do we still put forward various conditions that is to be satisfied by our partner?

Bollywood movies, romantic novels and the people around us have defined love in such a way that we believe in it so strongly and when we face something similar in our lives, we name it love and all the drama follows it.

But have you ever asked this question,” is this really love?”

or just a mixture of chemicals released in the brain and a want to satisfy our emotional and physical needs?

It needs huge efforts to understand what love is. Apart from the scientific reasons, there are also certain psychological reasons that leads to love.

We feel easy to love our dog Because you don’t get to see its anger or you don’t have to fulfil its expectations. Whatever you are and however you are, your dog will always love you.

But with humans, its not this way. These days, the bond formed between two people is very weak and often breaks due to small misunderstandings.

This can’t be love. When you can completely cut off a person from your life because he/she is not capable of fulfilling your need isn’t love. Its partnership. Or what we all call it now, a relationship.

It has conditions, boundaries and expectations. And when you or they don’t abide by that, the relationship doesn’t exist anymore.

But love, it’s not this temporary. It never really dies, unlike a relationship. I’m not saying there are no boundaries or expectations in love, but they are in a sensible direction.

You don’t prioritize your needs; you prioritize your person.

You don’t expect them to love you in a certain way only. You understand that they love you with everything they have and that should be enough.

You are not addicted or attached to them, but you enjoy your life with or without their presence because love is beyond the body and mind.

They are already a part of you, so it doesn’t really matter if they love you or somebody else, if they are around, you or not, you will love them irrespective of all the materialistic things.